LOVE YOURSELF (It all starts with you!)

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”Lao Tzu

The great Chinese philosopher Confucius outlined over 500 years before Christ about the need for one to “do unto others as you would want them to do unto you”. From a Biblical perspective, Jesus mentions how you should “Love your
neighbour as you love yourself” .I strongly believe that this statement should be slightly adjusted. It
should actually be : “Do unto yourself as you would like others to do unto you” or “Love yourself as you would want your neighbour to love you” . How do you expect to love your neighbour, if you don’t even love yourself? The problem with most people is that they do not treat themselves with respect in the first place, and such disrespect will always surface eventually.
Most people view themselves as unworthy and undeserving of the best things in life. They do not take the time and effort to groom themselves and take care of their health and well being. They indulge in activities and habits that harm them and those that do not serve their better interests. When their neighbour gets a good thing going for them, automatically it opens room for jealousy and envy. They have the mentality that since they didn’t deserve something good for themselves, neither should their neighbour. They perceive the success of their neighbour as the reflection of what they themselves lack. Some are so envious they end up sabotaging and maliciously resenting the success of their peers.

“What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others”. – Confucius

If you are a person who knows what’s best for yourself and strives to enhance all aspects that are important to your imminent life, you will automatically appreciate the good that others have to offer you as well. In turn you will treat others with respect and understanding. Your neighbours’ success will become a great opportunity for you to learn and increase your own prospects of success. How can you expect others to love and respect you when you yourself cannot love and respect your body and inner self. If you constantly view yourself as a LOSER and someone undeserving of the finer things in life? If you treat yourself like trash other people are going to mercilessly treat you like trash as well. That’s how life operates. We constantly seek other people’s validation yet we fail to validate ourselves of the best the world has to offer. If you on the other hand carry yourself as someone great, who only likes and deserves the best from life, people will respect you in the like manner. It’s up to no one else but you to set up that psychological frame and to make sure the whole world conforms to it regardless. I therefore challenge you to constantly strive to be your best self. THE GREAT VERSION OF YOU. Starting from physical appearance to the psychological way you relate to yourself. Always consider yourself in the positive and as a great.


Oscar (Dj Sulfa) is a weight-loss expert, graphic designer , musician, dating coach, motivational speaker and author . A self- proclaimed experimenter who is fascinated by cracking the codes to achievement in order to make life easier, faster, cheaper and more pleasurable in the pursuit of the results that you seek. Follow him on the following social media links:  Facebook    Instagram